Dear Annie: I am a healthy 50-years-young woman in the midst of menopause. I also have been diagnosed as mentally ill with depression. I refuse to seek treatment. I come from a culture where the shame of admitting a mental illness is a fate worse than death. So I sleep a lot. I have a fine husband who wishes nothing more than to be in a happy, healthy relationship with me and our two young children. I hurt everyone in my family with my mercurial temper, frequent yelling over trivial matters and causing general upset. For a while now, I have refused any intimacy whatsoever with my husband, including sweet talk and touching. I am completely disinterested in sex. I know I am starving my husband, and he is suffering. I've told him to find someone else. What should I do? Please don't tell me to get counseling. I have spoken to counselors in the past, and nothing has helped because I insist I am a victim and that all of my problems are someone else's fault. I cannot admit that I need mental health assistance. I am miserable, in every sense of the word. &8212; Frigid in New HampshireUpdated: Sun Feb 23, 2020