Dear Annie: I recently came home to find my husband looking at pictures of nude women on the computer. I didn't know whether to be hurt, sad or furious. He defended himself, saying he is the same as any guy looking at girlie magazines. After a much-heated argument, I discovered he was also looking at each girl's videos and had downloaded the photos onto DVDs and was storing them in our closet. He's apparently been doing it for years. I also suspect there have been other women, but he denies it. I found out he went to topless bars whenever he was traveling on business (and he traveled a lot). Annie, I have for many years felt that maybe my husband has a sex addiction, but I also have thought there is something wrong with me for not wanting sex as much as he does. Over the past 10 years since menopause, I've had very little interest in sex. We are intimate perhaps three times a month.Updated: Sat Jan 18, 2020