Dear Annie: I am a recovering alcoholic with almost three years of sobriety. I have a wonderful boyfriend with whom I spend many enjoyable hours. Occasionally, he is asked to join his friends for a drink. On several occasions, he has told them that he doesn't drink out of respect for me, adding, "You know ..." and looking directly at me. His friends all respond with a conspiratorial nod.Updated: Fri May 27, 2022