Growing through our experiences

This past week our little family was on the road again. Having the opportunity to be one of the keynote speakers at the Missouri Sheriffs’ Association conference was exciting for each of us as our family prepared to make the trip. The girls could barely contain their excitement, although they have been getting more and more accustomed to the spotlight during these events. With stuffed animals, iPad, and suitcases in hand we headed out on the four-hour journey, sharing with each other all the fun stuff we wanted to do in between conference events.

As with prior events, our arrival and initial set up were uneventful. Although short in duration, this trip would have ample time for play and the girls were ready and more than willing to partake in both the serious moments and the play times. As the short trip unfolded, it seemed that all the fun things the girls had planned were being sidelined due to circumstances. The day at the waterpark didn’t happen because the park was closed that day for maintenance. The shopping adventure was minimized due to many of the stores in the mall being shut down due to fall-out from the coronavirus epidemic. The girls’ fun trip which they had envisioned became for the most part an adult outing where they would put on a smile, sell some of daddy’s books, and do their best to find some fun in between.

Through all the changes in plans I noticed something very special. Although faced with disappointment, neither of my girls voiced any angst or negative behavior due to their not being able to do what they wanted to. Instead, both girls seemed to adapt and overcome, finding enjoyment in the process, and making the best of what lay before them. While speaking to a crowd of one-hundred-eighty, I noticed, in the back of the room, the smiles on the faces of my girls and heard their giggles with each funny story I shared. Their demeanor and perseverance were motivating.

I later learned from my wife that the girls took it upon themselves, on several occasions, to engage conference attendees, answering questions about the contents of my book as well as promoting the book to others. As I drove home, glancing in the rear-view mirror watching my girls sleep, I couldn’t help but think about how truly exceptional these two little ladies are.

Friends, things don’t always go as planned. The conference was a huge success for good old dad but lacked the desired excitement for the girls. Through each disappointment, each changed plan, we simply must keep our heads high, striving to find enjoyment in what lays before us. It is when we can find a workable solution to each disappointment, understanding that it’s not the end, that we can truly experience all this awesome life has in store for us. Focus on the experience my friends.

Richard J. Stephens lives in Carter County and is the father of three little ladies ranging in age from 9 to 29.